What could you do less of?
Among many others, overthinking, is a trait which I require to work upon. Thoughts will come and go as it is the way our minds function. But getting stuck with a thought and thinking over and over on it is a sheer waste of time and energy.
Overthinking is not introspection. When we introspect we mull over a topic in depth considering the pros and cons and reaching a conclusion which helps us make a firm and final decision.
Overthinking is repetitive thinking which does not take you anywhere. It is consumptive and disruptive. Mostly, while overthinking one only broods with one’s own perspective forgetting that there can be another or many other ways of looking at the same thing. That is why overthinking is not always correct thinking because it precludes the other side of the story.
I am oversensitive because I overthink. Being sensitive is good because it makes you conscious of people around you. A sensitive person is responsive to other people’s feelings and needs. An oversensitive person tends to be more concerned about one’s own feelings and requirements which makes him/her rather self absorbed if not self centred.
Overthinking is unhealthy because it creates stress. Stress can have physical ramifications which can adversely impact both body and mind. For example, too much thinking can cause headaches. Severe headaches can impact eye sight. Stress induced headaches can also lead to stiffness of muscles in the neck and shoulders and even the whole body , stomach disorder and disturbances in sleep.
Overthinking also takes one away from creativity. That is why it is negative and destructive.
How to get rid of this no good characteristic?
All bad habits die hard. But if one becomes aware of one’s shortcomings one can keep correcting oneself. It is not an overnight achievement but requires prolonged self-tutoring, patience and perseverance.
When I realise I have spent considerable time on one thought I tell myself that I am overthinking and should put a stop to it now. Making oneself conscious of ones’ own flaw is restraining even if it is not curative. Most times we do things habitually not realising that what we are doing is wrong. By making your own self aware of your wrong doing you tend to put a brake on yourself.
It is not always easy because it is hard to curb the tendency of the mind. So it has to be done repeatedly like a teacher standing on the head of an inattentive student and telling him/her to concentrate and listen in the class.
At times, I nudge and tell myself that what I am thinking may be only one side of the story. There may be another side to it too which I am missing.
At times, it helps to discuss with someone more rational and sensible so as to get clarity on a subject. There is no harm in seeking assistance when one is doubtful and indecisive.
If nothing seems to be working it is best to divert the mind with something light or even funny. Overthinking can be stressful. Watching or reading some fun things can relieve the stress which in turn can make the mind more amenable to reason and even flexible enough to let go.
Then there are times when nothing works. On those days I tell myself that today is not the right day to address the issue. Tomorrow I may be better placed to see things with a wider and newer lens. Till then let me shelve this thought.
One needs a lot of time and space to realise one’s deficiency and the ways to overcome it. The efforts may not always have a hundred percent positive result. But trying is taking a step towards bettering. And that is what I am doing everyday.
