Society has certain unwritten prescriptions for its members. One of them is that well brought up ladies should subscribe to a certain vocabulary – controlled, composed and courteous.
But sometimes we do cross the line in our exasperation. Don’t we ? I personally feel ventilation is required at times. How ? That is relative. Sometimes we involuntarily adopt ways and means that are locally used. The colloquial dialect especially that we are used to hearing in public. Somehow the oft-heard slang seem to express our spur of the moment feelings precisely.
Once I was going by a cycle rickshaw which stopped midway because a car was reversing while the driver was intently looking at his phone. Hence totally distracted. Had I not shouted at him he would have bumped into the rickety contraption toppling us over.
When I narrated the incident to my colleagues their instant query was, “But Geeta ma’am, what did you tell him?”
I tried to circumvent the question and said, “No gaali-galouch (profanity) as you all are thinking.”
“But still,” They cried.
So I quietly told them the epithet I had used which met with a round of applause. No, it was not a gaali yet not a so-called sophisticated word either – but just the exact adjective which aptly described the blunderer or his momentary action – a term common to the dialect of the Hindi belt in the North, however, used in this context assumed almost a jocular flavour.
There is a fine line of demarcation between crude expressions and unmouthable , unprintable expletives. Who defines what is respectful and disrespectful???
Our conscience, morality and self esteem most probably. Or perhaps our lingual sense – implications! Connotations! Intonation! Or the age old norms set by society.
Recently I read an article which said the usage of defamatory word/language is as ancient as human interaction itself and has been resorted to as the easiest weapon to psychologically “disarm” the opponent.
While threatening somebody is legally actionable (as per Bharatiya Nyaya Samhita) subjecting somebody to continued derogation is mental abuse. But what about using colloquial upfront (or behind someone’s back) just to let the steam out ? It may result in a contentious situation or jolt in some sense or more optimistically catalyse an epiphany (? 😂).
However, words spoken are a reflection of our image. So even if it is a teeth gnashing , jaw tightening situation composure is appreciated more than verbal diarrhoea.
It is revealing how certain profanities are considered ‘fashionable’ and generously used in normal conversation nowadays….!!! Apparently even the perception about profanities also changes with time!!!
Interestingly, one of the chapters in our holy book Gita written in ancient Sanskrit describes the demonic tendencies of an individual in one eloquent expression –
“Naṣṭātmāno’lpabuddhayaḥ” (नष्टात्मानोऽल्पबुद्धयः)
Without going into the deeper spiritual context, the phrase can be safely attributed to a person who has completely lost it.
Perhaps it will come handy next time I feel like lambasting a brainless nincompoop on the road….?

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