Human beings thrive on relationships. Yet when money comes into the picture the strongest of bonds rupture.
Families are seen entering into disharmonious squabbles over pecuniary matters. One of the reasons for the disintegration of erstwhile joint families was the disparity of income of members. Those who earned well decided to break away.
The sati pratha or the wife being burnt alive on the husband’s pyre was a devious social custom to eliminate one more claimant to the ancestral inheritance.
The dowry given to girls (primarily gold and jewellery) at the time of marriage was meant for their financial security or fall back in times of calamity. It gradually degenerated into a compulsion to provide monetary and material benefits as per demands of the groom and his family. Instances of bride burning are results of non compliance to these onerous demands.
During an arranged marriage, it is seen that the earnings of the groom is more than that of the bride as the disparity in income is often a cause of marital rift. A girl choosing not to part with her income after marriage also has serious repercussions disrupting conjugal harmony.
One of my female colleagues who, in spite of earning a handsome salary, survived the month on a fixed sum as pocket money. The decision of how her salary was to be expended or invested, rested with the husband – a source of continuous bickering in the family.
One of my junior colleagues was a victim of an abusive relationship for years. She was the sole bread earner of her family. Her boyfriend, despite earning well and being aware of her circumstances, wanted total control on her money. Ultimately his greed fractured the relationship forever.
don’t they say money is the root of all evil? It sure seems like it! xo
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Yes, Carol. Money is sweeter than honey but poisonous as well.
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A very thought-provoking blog. It clearly shows how financial control and greed can damage even the strongest bonds. Mutual respect and equality are the true foundations of any relationship. Well written.
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Thank you very much Mahananda. It’s true monetary motives erode the strength of relationships. To respect the financial freedom of each individual is key to the sustenance of not only a personal relationship but also society as a whole.
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How well said ! 🌹🙏
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Thank you Rajendraji. Happy Sunday to you. Have a great day.
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Happy Sunday Madam 🙏
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Mrng Geeta Di!!!
You have my heart for this ❤️
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Good morning and thank you Aparna. 😘
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You are always welcome and have a lot to read… And comment.… Your poems are a wow 🤗
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My Sunday is made. 💕
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Money, or its lack is often the cause of the breakup of the relationship.
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You are absolutely correct 💯 Sadje
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🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
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Money is amazing. It cannot hug, cannot cook, cannot love, yet everyone clings to it. Strange how something created for exchange ends up negotiating relationships.
Love says share, greed says mine, and peace of mind exits the scene silently.
A thought proviking post, GC.
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Mr. P we forget that money is an instrument made by humans for convenience of transactions. We have allowed it to permeate our household and peace of mind. Thank you for the appreciation.
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Although not necessarily enshrined in societal customs I think some of what you describe is seen the world over
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Humans are the same though I have written about our society. Thank you so much Derrrick 🙏
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Sara ‘bapu’ kay photo ka khel hai.Everybody loves his photo,Geeta Ji
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Thank you Nusrat.
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I can see couples now earning both money, and shared responsibilities. And they just compromise and share whenever they want. I think it’s just about communication that many people fall into chaos.
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Hazel, you are right. Understanding between people is more important than money.
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